Okay. Take two.
On 24 June 2018, at 10:31am (Sunday), my longest friend, Holley, died from cancer.
She spent a year battling leukemia.
She had just turned 37 a mere few days prior.
A few days before her birthday, she was given three weeks.
She got nine days.
Nine.
Not enough.
I cannot fathom my reaction if my doctor told me that I had only a few weeks to live (or a few years for that matter). I get this deep gut-wrenching feeling in the pit of my stomach and then an overwhelming despair settles upon my shoulders.
Holley had posted a picture of herself not long after finding out. I could see and feel her pain and it wrecked me. It still wrecks me. And to know that she is gone, forever, is still a concept that is hard to comprehend.
Holley and I met in the third grade.
We grew up together on “the mountain”.
She adored life and had a passion for animals. Especially dogs and pigs (the pigs might have been an earlier in life phase).
Holley was the most boy crazy person I had ever met.
She was the one who dyed my hair black promising that it wasn’t permanent.
IT WAS.
She was the first and only person to shave my head.
My first taste of tequila (tequila rose to be specific) was with her.
My first attempt at online dating was a double with her (safety in numbers, y’all).
My first (and last) time clubbing was with her.
We hung out the night before she left for the navy.
She was with me when I got my first tattoo.
The above is only a tiny snippet of memories I have of us. I wanted to write them down in order to preserve them.
It had been too many years since I saw her face-to-face. And now… it will never happen again. This has left me in an odd limbo. Because I hadn’t seen her in years, the separation is already there. However, this past week, as I listened to music, basked in the sunlight, walked my dog, gazed up at the moon, and laughed, I was reminded that Holley will never get to do any of these things again. I am saddened greatly because of it.
An inevitable fact: everyone dies.
We still have a choice to make: To simply exist in this world, or to truly live life.
I choose life.
I choose love.
I choose adventure.
I choose to be thankful.
I choose to work hard.
I choose to change the world.
I choose to appreciate the little things.
I choose to live as much as I can for as long as I can.
Holley,
I hope you found some sort of peace in the end.
I truly hope there is life beyond death.
I miss you.
Always,